Human Value III
Class 3 Relative Value
Thus far, we have established 2 types of internal and external personal value. Our Innate Value is what we are worth, and our Presenting Value is what we do to compete. These concepts form our self perception. But as we have referenced in the last class, humans are not designed to survive alone.
As we navigate our way through the world we encounter others. All of us live within a community for a period of our lives. We learn quickly that we are vulnerable in the world, and the more unsafe we feel alone, the more we look to the world around us for solutions.
There are many human presentations to choose from. This has never been as true as it is today, with the advent of the internet and advancements in transportation, communication and logistic technologies. It is truly a global community for much of the world.
How then, do we determine with whom we will bond with? Every person is an expert at recognizing patterns. We have used this skill for thousands of years. Whether it was the markings on a tiger’s fur, or the sound of the snakes rattle, we have a visceral response to sensory patterns that trigger our Sympathetic Nervous System.
This is also true of our interactions with humans. Some of us have lived in a safe “bubble” within our homes and communities. We have rarely encountered a hurtful presentation, and we are generally unguarded when it comes to new people. We often say of these types of personalities, “They never met a stranger”.
But some of us have had quite different experiences with other people. Perhaps going back to our infancy, we have learned that people will hurt us if we are not watching them carefully. When we are hurt, we make notes about the presentation of our attackers, and we look for them in the presentation of others.
Our families are typically the first people with whom we develop close bonds with. This is often a template for how we judge presentations in the future. If someone performs in a similar way, or perhaps looks like someone that we loved earlier in our lives, we recognize a safe pattern and gravitate toward their presentation. These are people with whom we have relationships.
Relative Value is our preference or prejudice toward another’s presenting value and innate. When we have healthy access to our own innate value, we are often able to see the innate value in those with whom we have close bonds very easily. When we do not, our relationships are typically superficial, and fall apart when the person is unable to present value that we prefer.
Some of us may have only been around a certain subset of people. Often this is the case when someone grows up in a community that lacks diversity. We may become fearful when we encounter people who don’t look like us, or talk like we do.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it.
Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does. It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.